Whr is th ballance 4 replusing ur frnds?

OK so when ever I become friends with a new guy and I get a sense that they are keen on me (in other ways than friendship) and the feeling isn't mutual I will try to do something to repulse them, but sometimes it just doesn't work. I have tried farting on them, eating food like a pig and smiling with food all through my teeth, snorting alcohol out of my nose from laughter, telling bad jokes, even reminiscing toilet stories and picking my nose. How far is TOO far when it comes to trying to repulse the opposite sex into not having ulterior feelings for you? So far it's not working out so great for me, if anything, I think it's having the opposite effect, guys are weird.



P.S. Biggie, limiting the topic titles to 40 characters is fucking shit. I'm actually a little bit angry about it. RRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHH

ever thought about just telling them....

your piggy habits are all in my top turn ons

So wait, you still wanna be friends with these guys?

Or do you just wanna get rid of 'em altogether?

Who hacked her acct?

I like how after your whole paragraph of weird shit that you do, guys are the weird ones.

Does your mouth not fucking work? How about telling them you're not interested instead of bullshit immature games? fucking women, who needs them?

Nah, it will be her

you have breasts, a vagina and an anus.......

guys are willing to look past your manky behaviours and focus on the above ^^

Sounds like your biggie issue is assuming you know how guys think (and then trying to manipulate them accordingly).

Why don’t you just put out for him? Sheez hes gone to all the effort of talking to you and stuff.

Because how do I actually KNOW if they are keen on me? If it's just a feeling but not an actual fact, why the fuck would I put my foot in my mouth and ask them? AWKWARD.


KrisB guys are weird because after all the weird shit I do purposely to deter them they are somehow become more keen. It's just wrong.


This is not ALL guys, just some. Pretty much just the ones I don't like Guys that I do like don't come anywhere near me fml

Why do you need to repulse them?

Why can't you just be friends with them, and if they make a move or tell you they have feelings, just tell them you're not interested in them that way.

Coz when, as you yourself say, you don't KNOW one way or the other, making a moron of yourself and trying to gross them out is less awkward HOW?




Guys are gross, you being gross makes them think you're "different from all the other girls, she's real, you know what I mean? She's not affraid to fart around me! I can really see myself with her"




Stop trying to play out of your league, then

It's hard to stay friends with someone who has told you they are interested in you in whom you have shot down, the whole situation just becomes awkward. I'd rather it not get to that stage. Seems like that's always what happens though..

Also some guys are so easily lead on. Sometimes I'm just friendly and that constitutes as me being stupid and leading them on, and other times I'm straight up and that constitutes as me being a bitch. There's no winning situation

It might be awkward for them, but I think it's funny

First world problems imo.

Just get AIDS and trust me, all these problems will go away :>

Hahaha…yeah, guys are pretty dumb like that…or when you do like them and are giving signals, it’s a guy who is clueless and doesn’t pick up on it!

I'm pretty repulsed by the title of your post, does that count?

I'm not blowing my trumpet or anything, or saying that a lot of guys are after me, it's just the odd few and not the flattering types so I actually have nothing to boast about. None of them are biggie members I hope.

It's just annoying when I begin to be friends with someone and clearly act that I am not interested in them in anyway other than friends but they still go for it despite my obvious lack of interest and subtle hints. It's also kinda depressing that some of my guy friends are only my friends for other obvious reasons.

I'm guessing this is probably the case for most women though?

I'm really sure if farting on them counts as a subtle hint.

I've only done that about 3 times, it's not really that bigger deal. BTW I come from Katikati, it's pretty much normal.

So it's kinda like slapping hands?

Probably only in my family tbh. They are pretty ferrel but recently they have been growing on me.

Many guys would see your willingness to show some of the things you mention as a sign of you being comfortable with who you are - which, long term, is actually an appealing trait in many ways.

On the specifics though... problem with farting on people is a) you have to be on them - not easy if you didn't like them already and, b) you might luck out with it and get some German/Japanese guy who will then beg you to shit on his face.

This is so odd and amusing.

It pains me to even consider the ilogical pathways your mind took in deciding that acting like a spaz is a good way to repel boys.

People that complain about 'being liked too much' need to stfu anyway. It's like complaining that you have too much money or something.

Being liked isn't a bad thing, being chased by absolute droncos is another thing entirely.

Essentially, everything you describe indicates you are relaxed and comfortable with the dude, and would like to take things further. Consequently, as grossed out as he may be, the sniff of "taking things to the next stage" is definitely in the air and for that reason he's gonna stay right close by. Even if he is a little grossed out, the promise of more could be too much to resist - especially if he is interested in on thing only

Considering who you are and what you look like you should perhaps be happy with this ... very happy.

How the fuck is it possible that doing something disgusting to repulse someone is somewhat indicative that I want things to progress to the next stage? If anything I thought it would be slightly offensive that I don't care about portraying myself in a good light around them. That's how I would feel if the tables were turned and someone was acting deliberately obnoxious. In some cases I guess it's kind of funny and endearing if a guy does some of the things I've mentioned, but it's different because I'm a girl!

You should heard up these droolers put them to work, clean up the house and what not. I see no reason for this to be a negative thing.

Jesus Christ, how backward is your behaviour? Who behaves like this?

Why do you have to "repel" said guy? Cant you just be his friend? If he tries something on, you just say sorry, wires got crossed. It may be a little uncomfortable for a few days, but he will get over it. I just dont understand why you are going to these lengths when you arent even sure if he likes you or not?

I actually think you may be kind of crazy..

Edit, I dont mean any offence, but how old are you..?

Becasue it could be taken as a sign that you are comfortable and relaxed, or even that you're a bit crazy, and would like to do some other crazy stuff too.

Perverse I know. But it could work like that, especially if the guy is keen and he wants to read things in ways that suit his intentions.

Talk about getting married and having kids, or how you want to buy a small rat (dog) and take it round in your handbag.

Guys wont stick around.

That or you could just be clear you aren't interested in anything more than friendship. Dont let them do things for you (ie remain independent) dont let them buy you drinks. Complain about other guys who dont get the hint you arent interested.

Because some guys are absolute idiots that hang on to the slightest glimmer of hope they have a chance. Being their friend and normal around them gives them the impression you feel the same way. In some cases it's better to not be friends with them at all because they live in a delusional existence in which you being friendly to them is somewhat indicative that you are interested in progressing the friendship to the next level. The fact is there ARE guys out there like this. Even guys that still keep trying and even start trying harder after you tell them you're not interested. Which is my case with one guy. When I tell him I'm not interested he tries to emotionally blackmail me, and when I try to be friends with him he tries everything in his power to try and make me like him, including trying to make me feel guilty. There's no winning situation.

You obviously haven't experienced this or had the same types of guys chasing after you as I have, and I actually know a lot of women who have acted the same way, some of which you are friends with too. I don't think you understand the situation at all.

That was for heylady. Also totally uncalled for. Wash the sand out of your vagina please.

I do this all the time in the hopes it will be a clear hint to back off! Do they take a clue? No.

Yeah, this.

I understand your situation, we have all had people interested in us when we dont reciprocate. Or do you believe you are the only person this has ever happened to? As for your waspish comments, I have no sand in my vagina, I am merely trying to understand why you would behave in this manner and why you cant just be an adult and approach the situation with some integrity?

My question still stands, how old are you? Because reading this thread is like being back in primary school. It has nothing to do with how gross you are trying to be, more to do with the way you view this..

thanks for the Friday afternoon reading though!

MEN DON'T SPEAK IN, OR UNDERSTAND, "CLUES"...period...end of story

You're a fine example of approaching a situation like an adult with integrity.

Bahahahahahahaha!!!!!! Did you say that with a jellybean lip?

I was actually asking a fairly valid question (as stated, I didnt actually mean any offence), because I dont know any adult that feels the need to "repel" men that they arent even sure like them.. Im sorry if you feel upset by my comments, maybe they struck a little too close to home..?

Just man up and talk to the guy FFS. :shakehead:

Basically what you need to do is just say to them "I've been trying to be really gross and stuff around you because I'm trying to tell you I'm just not interested."

Believe me, he won't come back.

heylady if you don't see how your comment was offensive in anyway you are a fucking moron

I don't know any normal adult that feels the need to try and start conflict over the internet and you're in no position to add age as a factor when you're acting like a bitch. Take your menopause elsewhere thanks, I have better people to waste my time on.

Hahah, if a random girl who I happened to like was being grubby around me I'd honestly think she was a dirty who was probably filthy in the sack and gagging for it ^_^

This is a prime example of silly girl logic imho hon; just speak to the person like a human rather than trying to be obtuse.

People (not just men) read things in erroneous ways, especially when emotion is involved. As everyone else has said, simply be forthright and honest rather than avoiding mild discomfort by playing games. Then, if honesty isn't handled, they aren't worth having as friends so simply bounce 'em

guys dont take hints and unfortunately due to some of your colleges who change their minds all the time some guys learn that persistence pays off.

And some guys a just desperate and will not take a hint. Hell they wont even take a no.

Communicate clearly, dont send mixed signals and deal with things as they come up. Its not your problem if guys are idiots as long as you have explicitly stated your position.

I'm really just exaggerating the whole situation and being a dick tbh

There is the odd occasion where I will deliberately burp in front of a guy or do some of the things mentioned above but not to the extreme that I'm making it out as All of you who know me will know that obviously

Oh, this just gets even better!! You are on a forum, sweetheart, we thrive on conflict. I will mos def step up and take the piss on teh intarwebs where I see fit. Being a bitch isnt confined to an age bracket, sunshine. Sometimes it takes years of practice.

You obviously dont have better people to waste your time on or you wouldnt have created a thread asking if its normal to fart on guys to put them off.

The age question was genuine, I dont know you from a bar of soap. You could be 17 for all I know. However, you then annoyed me with your infantile behaviour and stupid remarks so I decided to tell you how it is. Maybe you see me as being a bitch, but I see you as a juvenile game playing child, so I guess we are even.

Its the "Wellington beaches have sticks and shells!!" all over again..

Edit, nice backtracking BTW..

Well you need to take some responsibility for your situation - it is idiotic to be hanging around this guy and then complaining youre just trying to be friends. Unless you use the same emotional blackmail on people you shouldnt put up with someone else acting like a 5 year old.

Tell him one more time you aren't interested and then dont even acknowledge he exists = win.

LOL!! I knew you still had beef over me slanging your city

I have actually cut contact with said person. Told him if he text me one more time I would show everyone his texts and the shit I had to put up with from him on a regular basis. Sad ultimatum but I didn't have much choice and I didn't want to put up with it much longer. He doesn't contact me anymore.

Bahahahahaha!

Im an Aucklander you fucking pleb!!

Take your attention seeking bullshit elsewhere. Admittedly, it has been humourous, but I now grow tired of your waffling.

I wouldn't have shown anyone obviously.. just a scare tactic.

MY waffling?

If you don't want to look at my posts don't fucking open them

I cant help it.. Its like watching a car crash in slow motion..

How was kindy today? Did you pick your nose and wipe it on little Johnny to encourage him pay you some attention?

:popcorn:

Yeah man my point exactly!

...... Stop...



...... you had me at farting.

Get a boyfriend ... or say you have one ... that'll save you from the majority of issues, and any guys who push it when you're saying you're already taken aren't worth being friends with! As are people who emtionally blackmail you to be mates when they're clearly hopeful for more.

And, guys can be such simple creatures sometimes. If you're single and they're single of course they're gonna crack onto you if they find you attractive.

You could try not washing your mascara off before you go to bed.

UH OH, PANDA EYES

I have the same problem all the time. But I usually just defecate on their chests and we're done.

Prollum is, miss_minx, you do that to most people you meet so, understandably, it's gotta be confusing for your fanboys <: :>

wait, what?

you're the fuckin' weirdo if you do shit like that, jesus christ.

Why are you laughing? Do you not shit on a guy when he likes you..? Its like saying, "I dont want you, and now no one else will either."

subtle

at least you know where you stand with Re-action

Re-action I know when you're insulting me you're really just trying to tell me you <3 me. I <3 you too buddy ^_^

My thoughts too. Welcome to amateur hour.

Fuck his dog/cat/frog/father/mother/brother/sister. All at the same time if possible.
Shit in his bed for fun.
Explain to him that you wish to make a rain coat out of his skin.

If he still wants you then you've found your dreamboat.

+1

I always thought THC was a dude. (well that old avatar pic looks like a dude)

He is, that's why all this attention is such an issue.

Oh

teehee :>

someone shat on my car once, love or haten? so hard to tell these days!

hehe.

I think since you're mates with them.. tell them straight up you're not interested in anything more than just mates with them as you value their friendship etc and if you're reading the situation wrong then just laugh it off..

or fart...

or whatever.. *sigh*