New Year Resolutions?

Do you have any, I have loads:

Mine are:
Get my full license.
Get fit/Lose weight/Get to Advanced level in Pilates.
Get a hot awesome guy.
Get the most amazing outfit together for the boxing day races at the end of the year.. I'm obsessed with it now.
Keep my car maintained.
Grow my hair.
Smile more.

I don't know if I'd call them resolutions but I do have some goals that are nicely framed into a years timeslot..

-Save a certain amount of $
-Theres three qualifications I'm going to get, two are just exams, the third is like a 15 week course of sundays

I also have this vague notion I want to drink less but I haven't totally formed the plan of what thats going to mean in practice.

I'm going to buy a car but dunno if thats much of a goal... more of a plan.

Theres maybe some others.. I got room for others

Mine are simple, and they all involve more quiet weekends and not partying so much.. which i have been doing very well with in the last 6 months.

- Save as much $$ as possible.
- Get the fittest and healthiest i have ever been in my life.
- Do well at my new job and get promotion at least by the end of the year
- Learn Logic Pro 9 and get back into Dj'ing/Making music.

Oh just the usual - lose weight - so I can climb hills better :p
A few time specific goals for various cycle events, built into healthy eating goals
Move back into the central suburbs
Keep putting in lots of effort into my career, maybe an opportunity will come up in our Melbourne office.

Not in the frame of mind to do that, but I'm slowly building on a few different things anyway. I was reflecting on some things last night while trying to sleep and came up with the vague resolution to identify a bunch of cycles in my life, understand them and then break the fucking shit out of them.

*Travel more: 12 countries in 12 months. I failed this year by only getting to 8. Bollocks.
*Eat better and exercise more. I'm idly considering rock climbing as there is an awesome climbing wall nearby.
*Continue being awesome at my lovely new job.
*Start writing again, even if its just my stupid travel blog
*Start moisturising my goddamn face
*Go to more gigs/festivals/arty things
*Be a better friend
*Be more tolerant of stupid/annoying people in my day to day life
*Start behaving more like an adult

This year was kind of tough/weird but the last couple of months has been really good. Hopefully next year will continue along this vein....

Mine is to not make any resolutions. It's something I feel I will have a good chance of completing.

shit knows. I had a tonne, but having had two friends pass away in the last week I'm thinking my only resolution will be to spend more time with those I love.

Shit *hugs*


I don't really do these, but here's some goals anyway:
- Get off the cigs
- Eat better
- Exercise more
- Sleep better
- Visit grandma more
- Get money
- Fuck bitches

Sorry to hear that

My resolution is to punch some smug cunt telling me their do-gooder resolutions right in the mouth.


...but like most resolutions... I suspect I won't actually do it...

Mine was going to be "start drinking more"... since Ive noticed since I became pretty much teetoll how boring/non existant my social life is, and how Ive fell out of touch with so many people (incl many of you c*nts)

But Ive thought that through and decided Im not going to force the evil liqour stuff down me to reach this goal , instead Im going to get better at socialising sober

Im also going to crush at work and at the tables n stuff, 2012 will be my year

Hope you do it...and Maybe Im out of line saying so but w/e. This is pretty much about fkn time.. Occasionally Ive wondered if you had some sort of agenda to not live past 40

little steps but seriously to exercise smoking isn't ideal.

hope you do too Krisb your awesomeness is needed for as long as possible!

You'd be surprised - despite being unfit, having put on more weight in the last ~year and a touch of gout - I'm actually in pretty good health all things considered - blood pressure, cholesterol etc all remarkably good for someone my size and fitness, and I pretty much never get sick, which is amazing consider how much I do hammer my body with booze cigs and pot.

But it's only all downhill from here as I get older, so yeah. Gunna miss the cigs tho, I'm a bit worried about that as I'm not really ready to stop. Probably I'll aim for cutting out midweek smokes to start.

Actually I tell you what really shits me though. No one EVER says that to the skinny cunt who smashes drugs booze and shit food. Only to the fat cunts.

It is hard because so many social occasions are booze filled, but there's no need to try and keep pace with the drunks, ever. Nothing stops anyone having a couple of drinks and fucking off home. Except willpower.

Terrible idea... trust me

Why is it terrible, it's the easiest to start with.. just keep busy at home find something else to do.. hardest part is out drinking.

Krisb if you want any info on champix or stop smoking information books etc let me know message me your addy if you want anything.

I'm of the firm belief that it is all or nothing. If you continue to smoke while you are quitting, it is because you don't *really* want to quit them. So you won't.

It sounds really stupid but unless you really *want* to quit. You will fail every time.

I can't speak about quitting smoking but with resolutions it definitely helps to keep a record of how much you've done (study/exercise/whatever), it gives a good incentive to keep going when you see how far you've gotten.

I still need to set some specific goals but I think mine are

Keep exercising and try to do some different exercise apart from running.
Keep studying Japanese and pass the JLPT test (think i've got till june).
Move to a nicer place.
Do more djing here

For sure, I totally agree, and in fact that's what I always say too. It's just hard because I am not quite ready, the most pressing reason to stop currently is financial more than anything else.

We'll see anyway. It's a step I can do easily anyway, as it is, while I'm at home doing nothing I'm stretching out the gap between smokos as much as I can.

There are many ways of giving up. I did it by slowly cutting back over a long period of time. Basically each time you want to smoke put it off for a while. Perfect that fine art of procrastination!

Keep some of this stuff in mind perhaps.
Helpful advice for achieving a goal:

• Make a step by step plan, break it down into sub goals with dates. Make it achievable.

• Tell other people about your goals. Publicly committing to stuff makes it harder to back out and gets you support and encouragement.

• Think about the good things that will happen if you achieve your goal. ie, what are the benefits and why do you want them?

• Reward yourself for making progress (not with stuff that is counter productive to the goal of course). That step-by-step plan, at the end of each one there is a treat for a job well done.

• Record your progress (journal, chart). Tracking your progress is vital for a number of reasons, pretty sure I don't need to spell them out.

Ineffective stuff:
• Focusing on role models or someone else who has achieved a lot or celebrities etc. Fuck them, who cares. I mean, sure, get advice etc but this is about you, not them.

• Thinking about the bad things that will happen if you don't achieve your goal. Not helpful.

• Trying to suppress unhelpful thoughts (I need a smoke). Trying to suppress thoughts makes you think about them more.

• Relying on will power.

• Fantasising about how great your life will be when you achieve the goal. That shit gets you no where, you wind up being content with the fantasy. It's what most people wind up doing.

Isn't there a chance these two are the same?



Why is this ineffective?

small goals wont work for me if I want results...To get fit again I know I have to run about 5ks a day do weights and pilates, boxing most days ......and hike up a mountain everyday and eat small meals often ....krisb all I can recommend is hiring a treadmill I lost 15Kg* using mine when I started I could only walk not run but eventually was running my arse off like a pro. (* I have since put 7kg back on due to not using said treadmill and drinking too much wine).

I think that one is part of having a concrete plan and knowing why you are doing it. Reminding yourself of the benefits and having a checklist. It's about doing something and knowing how you are going to do it.
The other is just dreaming with no way of getting there and it's possibly not completely realistic either.

I guess it's ineffective because it's not helpful to fill your mind with negative and de-motivational shit when you are trying to make your life better in some way.

I'm reading a book called 59 seconds (my first Kindle purchase even), the concept is a bunch of tips on all sorts of crap that you could take away in under a minute of what appears to actually work in various studies as opposed to what some self-help type person tells you works. So I thought I'd share that bit.

My nutritional thing a few years ago was rather successful for me, and I can see the parallels - though it was the act of paying a nutritionist who set the fortnightly goals and kept a record of everything that made it successful. I just went along for the ride.. that time.

Cool, thanks for the tips!

Indeed there are, and naturally everyone will advocate what worked for them ... But what is good for the goose isn't always good for the gander.

I kinda gave up via stealth mode ... I never actually consciously quit but knew I wasn't being kind to my health and was spending far too much on cigarettes and cut down. I cut down during the week until I wasn't even smoking on weekdays and then the weekend cigarettes disappeared as well. For me, I think "not quitting" actually helped, it was never a case of not being allowed a cigarette, I was choosing not to.

But different strokes and all that. Good luck Kris! And whoever else is giving up the cigs. And to everyone setting NY resolutions.

Mine:
* Get a PhD scholarship
* Travel more now that MA is finished
* Keep improving level of French and help husband with his more
* Eat better (very very very hard in France) & exercise more
* Drop French blubber
* Be more organised at work

I do this all the time.. when I go out I drink Sprite and occasionally I have one alcoholic drink, then when I'm ready to go, I just say goodbye to everyone and go home. None of this stumbling around, $45 taxi home, drink-3-glasses-of-water-before-going-to-bed, wakeup feeling like crap business.

I've never been a smoker so I don't know about how hard it is to quit, but how about every time you want to buy a packet of cigarettes, instead put the money into a jar or a bank account? Then it'd be motivation to see your savings growing. Then when you've got enough money in there, splash out on coke and pills. Yay, party at your place!

I might try that tomorrow night as I want to go out but am sick...so dont want to crash at someones place and feel like shit in the morning ..might just go out stay til about 2 and then gap it....sober ...if I can manage that and without any cigs or maybe 1 or 2 then I will be stoked I dont want to be hungover. fuck that would not be ideal.

I"m spending my NYE on the couch hahahahaha No one to watch the midget anyway So very excited to be boycotting it!

I have found this to be a very effective online planner: http://www.tomsplanner.com/

It is set to come up as my main homepage whenever I open my browser (which is the first thing I do once I'm actually conscious in the morning, to read the news etc.).

shit that looks pretty sweet. I can imagine using that for a couple of projects I have going and also for uni when I go back. Cheers!

I got the health and fitness thing pretty sorted so no problems there
main resolution would be to resolve a few dilemmas

I dont handle sitting these things out very well....But should as am really sick in bed now and can barely move but will still go out nye...silly me.. ....

Having a jar of money sitting their whilst dying for a cig is not going to help, especially as it starts to accumulate you'll make excuses about not missing $15 from all that loot.

I did cold turkey, it wasn't actually deliberate to start with I went a few days without one after one of those ashtray mouth weekends and then decided to see how long I could go, from their I realised I wanted to quit more than I wanted to smoke so while I had cravings I knew that giving into them would be counter productive to quitting - I also had a voice in my head saying if you don't quit now then when will you? Stop putting it off.

I have a rule that I usually stick to (I say usually because sometimes niggas just gotta get crunk):

IF IT HASN'T HAPPENED BY MIDNIGHT IT'S NOT HAPPENING.

Seriously, there's no point being out past midnight, you just drink more, so does everyone else, conversations are reduced to circular shit-talk, and you wake up feeling like shit - and for what? A few extra hours of meaningless crap talking? Fuck that, midnight's the magic hour for me (usually, anyway).

That's silly. You just have to tell yourself that you're not missing out on anything. Because let's be honest, you're not really. Except a hangover

Thats good...I might start doing that but 12 is way too early, well for me....Im actually not wanting to out tonight Im sick tired Im sure I look really fat too and have run out of good makeup so will have to wear my revlon stuff....poos. But have to go....woe is me fucking party pooper heh.

Nah I have to go its my good friends bday and she really wants to hang with me....and it will be fun except for my broncial cough and fever....Im staying in bed til 5 today heh and probs will just have 1 glass of wine tonight hrmmmmm heh. what are you doing tonight spike?

We have a room booked in Raglan, but as of yet I haven't got out of bed in Wellington, heh.

We decided the day before yesterday to instead go to La De Da today just for the day, but weather is crunk, so that's off now too.

Tonight will be spent at a mate's party in the city somewhere. I'm not really feeling going out at all now tbh.

Yeah this weather is such a downer...I want to go to the races again tomorrow but not if its like this. lame stupid storm.

Sounds good I reckon, the problem with all or nothing is that if you're not ready to go all in it becomes an excuse to do nothing.

I think cutting down is definitely a good plan

I've spent the last few weeks thinking about NY resolutions, which is something I've *never* done before... I have a few potential jobs for next year that will require me letting go of my dilettante, carefree method of doing this whole academia thing :'(

fuck new years resolutions...

but 2012 is looking to be a monster year for me.

Finally finishing uni, starting a new job, moving to a new country..

actually, maybe I do have one NY resolution. Travel more! I'd like to go to Spain, Scandinavia, Iceland, Sark, Prauge, Russia, and a whole bunch of other places. Gotta make the most of living in Europe while I can.

oh, and I want to go to a test match at lords, and luck would have it that RSA are touring next year!

I tend to think that too but I do know quite a hot girl that actually got picked up somewhere south of 4am

Pretty sure the midnight rules don't apply tonight

# KrisB talking about cutting down his drinking and smoking

# Others advocating leaving my midnight cos "nothing happens after 12"

# General complaints about hangovers not being worth it

# Still others jabbering on about work goals and losing weight


you c*nts are getting old and boring

the rules don't apply to hot girls, they can do what they want when they want.

Besides.... nobodies ugly at 4am

My only resolution would be to keep training all year, no long breaks of inactivity... I'm way more productive when I'm working out so everything else will flow from that.

Heh, was going to post something similar.. Midnight!? I probably won't even go to the club tonight till 1 or so

Well I'm pretty sure Maestro doesn't go out anymore at all, so he shouldn't really be talking

You can have your clubs Bn1. Pretty sure when I'm up at 9am tomorrow and having breakfast with mates I will not envy you

Tbh when I was in NZ I had similar opinions but now I live somewhere with a decent club scene so have rediscovered the joys of late nights out.

Im amped now !! fake tan hair done makeup awn....blasting george sipping on a shandy....and ecide what to wear..........parttttyyyyyyyyyy hehe have fun everyone Im gonna have loads

It's partly that, and it's also partly the fact that hangovers get more and more terrifying as you age, so you tend to save them for occasions that really call for one. I don't think I'd be any different now if I was still living in Europe.

YEAH RIGHT. ...hahhahaha that shit could be a tui ad.. what a disaster that was I was all yay and everyone else was meh...awkard... guy I used to "know" with his wife..my friend was too hungover and just wanted to sleep.....feeling like shit and wanting to vom after a cig, couldnt see the fireworks from my friends place so everyone was let down, get home to a huge domestic near my place then some crazy bitch started trying to smash my fence in and screaming like a maniac outside my house omfg. hahahahah fml. at least Im not hungover and its not raining might get pretty make a picnic and go to the races...ffs gotta laugh. I bet everyone had a awesome night and since I thought it was going to be fun I jinxed it.

My night was as expected. A few quiet drinks at an apartment, then to a few bars. Home by 2am. Was this >.< close to not even going out, but glad I did, even if it was a nothing night.

seemed very quiet in CBD compared to other years....
on topic though, I would like to get my car license this year, and maybe even a car. havent had either in all my years.

Fuckin great night! Feelin remarkably good right now too, after sleepin from ~9am till 3pm. Awesome!

awesome !! ... this years NYE I'm going to make sure I go to a gig RnV or Coro Gold fuck staying in Auckland.

haha went to the races today... love dressing up a little so that was good... makes up for last night.. and won a bit of money on my horsies

I had a sober night and it was fine. Made me feel pretty good even.

I sound like such a loser ....lol....oh well.

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