Kissing other guys/girls

Do you do kit? Would it bother you if you partner did?

I kiss all my girl mates ... most of them on the check, some on them quick peck on the lips. Guys get a hug, not so many kisses.

I was chatting to my gf when we were out on Saturday .... it'd kinda bother me if she kissed anyone passionatly on the lips, but a quick peck for guy/girl mates is no stress, and I guess I could deal with her giving a chick a bit of a pash if she really wanted to.

If you were with someone what would be your expectation for them around this ... and would the rules be the same for you?

Oh yeah, and I kiss random girls I don't know on the cheek when I meet them .... random guys get hand shake unless we're mashed and then they might get a quick mnan hug

I kiss some of my female friends on the cheek, hug others and say hi to the rest
I kiss some of my male friends, hug others, shake some hands and say hi to the rest

for me its very much a level of friendship and intimacy but I have no firm and fast rules

different groups of friends operate in different ways and I fit into which ever world I'm in - though I don't do those complicated handshakes some males like (especially the hip hop types I come across) - to them all I simply say sorry I'm a honky and shake their hand properly, I've no interest or desire to engage in handshake gymnastics

partner can do as they please

TBH I'm not that much of a kissy huggy person even my friends know that.. a quick hug is ok but seriously I met this guy from my car club he grabbed me for a hug and pressed me really close and it was his first time meeting me .. it was NOT GOOD.

I like a kiss on the hand that's totes player and I"m old school so that is a big of a swoon thing for me.. as it's respectful and tipping a hat so cute. Ok it's not 1920 but still I love that old school gentlemanly stuff

If he don't say: "Enchante`" while kissing your hand, he ain't a true playa...

haha... that might be next level playa skills not available in Auckland.

I did it once to a friend of mine while drunk and now she insists on me doing it every time I see her. She is dating another friend of mine though so not sure if I'm a true playa or a true sucka!

I kiss my wife, hug my son and my family - (maybe hug a very close friend Ive not seen in ages)

Other than that, if you try to hug or kiss me, it will be taken as invading home territory and Ill declare war!

In all seriousness the party scene in NZ 99-02 taught me that it's totally OK to hug guys ... kinda stuck with me I guess ... and that's pretty much how I greet all my guy mates if I haven't seen them for a week or more.

Don't like shaking hands with girls unless it's a business/work colleague ...

If your partner (or a hypothetical partner) kissed people on the lips would this be an issue? Or, what if they kissed and held it? Or kissed a bit?

Yes it would be a problem. I give people crazy eyes if they attempt to do this to my wife.
Keep your touchy feely to yourself - or Ill get all hillbilly and take you for a walk to the back paddock (and I will carry a shovel with me)

I had this work colleague that I really respected who had this strange habit of kissing my wife on the lips when he said goodbye. I thought nothin gof it but my wife Claire was really upset by it and was convinced he was trying it on, until one night we went round to his for dinner and a few drinks and we noticed him kiss his maid and babysitter goodbye on the lips. Then he made some off hand remark about her and I got reallty angry and we left, my wife enjoyed this though as seeing me fight for her made her feel valued.

I'm sure my father in law Jay would've been proud of how I stood up to him.

WTF why would you kiss them on the lips? Yes that would annoy me.. what's the point of it.. oh look at me I'm so friendly??

lame.

KISSED AND HELD IT.. ?? WHY!??

??? Are you a bit cray cray or something????????

he's a swinger... all them crossfitters are
this is what exercise does to you people

just say NO

Nothing wrong with hugging obviously.

Kissing on the lips as a greeting/goodbye and then "holding" is just fkn weird and something that I suspect only exists in the world of Itchy :>

Spiked their drink?

Doggies are on the mean loved up pills imo!

There's only a handful of guys I want hugging me. I don't ever try to hug girls unless they go to hug me first and even then I'm not comfortable with it.

I rarely offer to shake hands as well. I don't mind shaking the hands of people I know or have been introduced to, but if a stranger offers me their hand, I wont often take it. Travelling has taught me that strangers who try to shake your hand are probably assholes trying to get your money.

My partner kisses people on the lips now and then, usually when she's very drunk. Just a peck and only very good friends. She also always asks me first if I care, which I never do. If it were more than a peck, then it would bother me.

Of course if a guy tried to kiss her on the lips first, then I'd tell him to never do it again. If he did, then I'd have to stop myself from wrapping a cricket bat around the side of his head. Regardless of whether a person thinks it's "just a kiss", you have to respect the other person and their partner.

hahahaha that's fkn absurd!

Absurd but true. All the clipboard nazis try and shake your hand also (thats the charity collectors)

I normally only ever kiss people I want to have sex with, unless its that customary kiss on each cheek that some cultures do. Hugs are free though, no issue there

Everywhere I've been and wandered the streets it's been the same. Vendors, drivers, sellers tricksters all offering to shake hands while they explain how they'll show you around the city almost no money, before driving you to the nearest tailor. Offering their hands and then refusing to let go until you're openly rude. That's my experience and it's done me pretty well so far.

Once you've broken the "pack-rape" seal, a peck on the cheek between the boys isn't classed as being gay anymore.

heh, I misread your post entirely I thought you were saying that your experience with strangers overseas means you won't shake anyone's hand anymore :>

shame

I would feel completely uncomfortable with myself or my other half kissing someone on the lips, even just a peck. I don't mind cheek kissing though, lots of family do that. I guess I used to kiss my parents on the lips every night to say goodnight even when I was a teen, although that seems really odd to me now!

I am quite funny about personal space, I imagine a lot of people are. I like hugs from friends though.

personal space is a major factor with regards to intimate greetings and peoples reactions I'd suggest - especially with those not so close to a person

try getting close to a south island farmer... they get flustered and move away at about 27 kilometres...

Oh right. I'm not quite that bad.

Though sometimes, after I've shaken hands with someone, I want to go straight to the bathroom and wash them.

Tis true, king country farmers only a couple of k's less. Hang a right towards Inglewood or Stratford and they take it another way however *shudder*

If I thought someone might feel uncomfortable with me kissing them on the cheek I probably wouldn't do it .... but I pretty much always kiss women on the cheek when I meet them and I've never felt that anyone has had an issue with this ... shaking hands with women just seems a bit weird to me.

People kiss their friends on the lips as a greeting .... I do this with a few girl mates ... the gf does it with her guy mates ... I have no issue about it

I shake women's hands really firmly so they know how strong I am. If a girl winces when I shake her hand, then she knows how manly I am and will try to sleep with me.

Bro, you seem so utterly oblivious to how normal people think that I doubt you'd even register if someone did have an issue with it

"I mean, nobody's slapped me in the face yet... must be all good right?" *bounce bounce*

God I'm starting to get the heebies from all this.. kissing someone on the lips is NOT IDEAL.

Plus if someone smudged my lipstick I'd be super peeved

what if it was david dallas after a show QT

wouldn't that be totes real?

David Dallas is cool, like the epitome of cool. He's not going about pecking people on the lips. sheesh.

He's way sex

I kiss on the cheek a lot, very occasionally on the lips (mainly aunties and a few friends).

given the size of HIS lips, it would be more than a mere peck I suspect

I'm not at all touch feely.











unless shes hot.

Needs to shave those shoulders

nothing more sexy than a woman with a hairy back... just pretend shes a goat

Quick hug and a peck on the cheek to female friends, or the miswah doing the same to male freinds, is prefectly fine...lips, hmmmm, not so much, it's just not our cultural norm, but nothing really wrong with it if it is your cultural norm.

Couple of guy mates I have a bro hug with and the occassional jokey cheek kiss.

But as a whole, no, wouldn't be happy with miswah lip kissing every Tom, Dick and Harry

I kiss most of my good mates on the lips. If they got girlfriends who didn't like it, then said girlfriends could fuck right off. obviously the boys who get involved with my ladies don't seem to give a shit.. People I know not so well, cheek kiss and/or hug.

As for a lingering kiss, WTF are you on, Itchy? You give me the mega creeps. Just FYI, if I ever meet you and you try and kiss me I will gutter slap you so hard you won't know what hit you.

oohh snap!

If you're good to Mama, Maama's goood toooo yoooouuu

Never said I kissed and held, just a hypothetical ... boundaries are obviously completely diffferent couple to couple .... I was just interested where those boundaries lay with people.

Nice work heylady suggesting I'm a creep, but thinking any girls who have an issue with you kissing their boyfriend on the lips should just fuck off. Contradiction much?

Not when you consider most of these boys AND GIRLS I've known for well over half their lives. Same goes for my family. I'm not hitting on them, I have no sexual thoughts about them, they are my family and I love them in a platonic fashion. As for me using the term 'fuck off', when have you ever seen me post without cussing?

By your own admission above you just proved you view this as something more than what I've just stated.

I'm not the one who thinks it's fine to spike drinks or continuously rabbits on about their sex life, you even used the term 'creating life' at one point. You make my stomach turn, and clearly not in a good way. You may not have said you kissed and held, but what rational person would ever think that is fine if you are in a relationship? You continuously induce thoughts of sleezy, revoltingness. I actually view you as a oily, sweaty slimebag.

Eww. God, I need a hot shower and a scrub with a steelo.

hahahahaha...classic!

Riiiiight

I pash everyone I meet, and all my friends, and all my boyfriends friends, sometimes I touch their bums too.

bums.

HL love to hear your thoughts on my biggie persona.. or maybe not .. heh.

So hot right now, Tragic.

Haha, you're all good, QT. TBH, you possess an innocence that is charming and very sweet. Something that is a relatively rare trait in women in this day and age.

Do you pash on the first date?

HOT. :>

scathing...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kiss_Hello

Boys have hair on them = no kissing from me.
Cheek kiss some girls particularly if they're ace and I haven't seen them in ages but usually more noise than contact MWAH! Have no issues if lads or ladettes feel the need to kiss me on the cheek, but icky if someone I'm not fucking kisses me on the lips unless pills are involved. Then no stress if they're awesome.
Hugs/bro hugs for everyone I like, handshakes when too many for hugs or if I don't know them.

Watching now, God bless streaming ^_^

Okay... I'm bored (I should be working).

Guys: Would not initiate a hug 99.9% of the time but wont be too upset if they know me and hug me or just have a friendly persona. Would be weirded out if they tried to kiss me and would duck if they went for the lips, jesus. If they went for the cheek, as I said, weirded, but take it in my stride, not a big deal I suppose... Depends on the vibe.

Girls: Rarely initiate a hug these days, maybe with a few close friends, always ready for one though. Very rarely initiate a kiss, would be if they are a close-on-some-level but long-lost friend. Open to receiving *shrug* A bit weirded out by a kiss on the lips but can take it in my stride, not a big deal.

Rules change a little bit when drunk or wasted (loosen up a little). Rules change if in a relationship (tighten up). Anyone I went out with would likely hold similar values and if they didn't. a discussion would be in order.

Oh and rules change if I'm dealing with a different culture and norms. Not sure how but, allowances for European sensibilities perhaps.

Love ya work Smiley

Tackle hugs are reserved for guys when watching or playing sport.