skanky_yankee said:
fish_boy said:
Consider this scenario. You go to the pub one night and a bunch of girls are there on the prowl. Not unusual these days, as surveys indicate there has been a sea change in female attitude to casual sex, and frequently they like try before they buy bolstered by alcohol. So you pick up, or get picked up, by one of these girls and she decides (for whatever reason) to have a "wake and scream" moment.
You end up in court.
Consider this scenario Fishy: You are a 15 year old girl who after counselling has finally reported being raped by her uncle in her family home. After going through the process of reporting, giving multiple statements to the cops, being examined by a doctor for sexual abuse care, and being shunned/disbelieved by members of your own family...
You go to court to be torn apart by the defense counsel with totally irrelevant information about your private life,
which will hopefully sway the jury into thinking that you are a lying vengeful little girl rather than a victim whose behaviour is actually very typical of someone who has experienced sexual abuse/violation.
Neither system will be perfect but I know which one I would prefer.
Pull your head in. Remind yourself of what makes up the majority of sexual violence cases in NZ: Children, with the accused offenders often being from within the family.
Thing is though, there are people who lie about these things, so it is not always 'irrelevant'.
In the Family Court, sometimes parents will actually concoct stories about sexual abuse so that they are in a position of strength when it comes to determining care arrangements.
Granted there are cases when a mother will merely be trying to find a way to rationalise their kid's sexual/sexualised behaviour, and sexual abuse allegations against the father will be made as a result, but there also seem to be situations where parents will completely concoct and fabricate stories which point towards some kind of abuse having taken place, when it is not the case at all.