going solo?

screwed up again sorry.
Was woundering what people's opinions were on going to clubs solo?

all good i reckon. sometimes it's a shame not to have a mate to share the buzz with, but yeah, i'm a supporter.

yeah u need to go in two's i reacon!thats the way coz then if u find a nice piece to get jiggy with then u can just gaps it!goin solo isnt the way to go unless ur a quay st bar scum that goes to leftpos and the loaded mud!

wen i see ppl going solo i only think one thing "daterape". guys generally look too seedy by themselves

absolutly if u go buy ur self u are only afta one thing and that aint all good!

Hey, that's not fair. I got into the dance scene going solo, initially, as none of my mates were interested (that I knew of, really). I did this a few times before finding out Colgate was into it as well.

I wasn't after sex / chicks / anything else, except to have a good time with the music. I was bored sitting at home stuffing around listening to beats on my home stereo and computer, so I thought "fuck it!", took a deep breath and set out for the dance scene.

Admittedly, some guys alone do look dodgy, but I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I think going dance clubbing alone is a hell of a lot less seedy than going to a bar alone!

It is cool to have company though, share the buzz, someone to talk to when you're coolin' off. For safety, it could be wise as well. (I'm not sure how bad the Auckland CBD is compared to the Wgtn one though)

wtf? dam i go by myself all the time and the 1 reason i go for is the music,i don't like goin with friends coz i usually end up lookn after them or sumfin,plus i like doin what i want without havn 2 ask 4 permission 1st =P but goin with a good crowd iz always good,but then i don't really like clubz no more,just wanna stik 2 events now

& hey i might look seedy but i ain't no rapist =P

I tend to go a lot by myself also. Alot of my matres aint into it and are piss heads. Also they frown upon drug use so i tend not to drag them into the scene. So does that ,mean I shouild stay away just cos I aint got no -one to go with. Actually heaps of my meats are into it but we always seem to split. At big gigs I always go off on my own. I love being myse;f and meeting new people. Its so much fun and hwen you run into someone you know its so cool.

I often head out by myself. Usually on a Friday night when my "mates" are being extra slack. But I usually find it takes about 5 minutes until I've found people I know.

There's another side to 'going solo'. Gotta watch where you are, some parts of town ain't the best place to be on your own.

Town can be a very lonely place by myself, I have been separated from friends in town and people just look at you different when you enter a club by yourself walking around alone shouting your friends names.....madness comes in stages.

Yay for the people who go it alone!

There 'aint nothing wrong with going solo. It's a perfectly natural thing and won't result in blindness or hairy palms.

I'm talking about clubbing you filthy perverts I started clubbing on my own because I love the music and didn't know anyone else who was into it at the time. (Voiceinsideyou, this is poetry man..) I still go to events on my own, it's no biggie, you meet new people there and you can do your own thing without worrying about what everyone else might want to do. Once you're on a crowded dance floor it's all the same anyways.

of course everyone on their own isn't seedy, but u have to bear in mind that along with you guys who go on your own to enjoy the music there are alot of guys who go own their own with alterior motives because they know that there will be alot of out of it girls there. BUT- good on u guys who go on your own 4 the music, though wouldn't u want to share the experiences with ur friends??

I go solo occasionaly, but not becauses I wanted to. If its a reall good party and for whatever reason you can't get the gang together why should you miss out. Go for it son!

I have had the best times going to things on my own when you can't get a crew together - usually end up meeting some really cool people who you wouldn't normally meet and the best thing is if you go to the same club/event again you bang into the people you meet last time.
Besides once your dancin no one knows if you are going it alone.

I'm the same, have no qaums about going out by myself to clubs, not a hell of alot of interaction with people just the music and dacing, but if the DJ puts on a fat jam you get all the interaction you need with other people who are up for it.
Even when I do go with people I find I go off by myslef any way, not by choice just happens, I like to be around people who are goo dancers and who are up to it, there vibe rubbs off and hopefully mine as well.
Peace.

oh my god some classic posts here. do we now have to take mates out with us so we don't look like date rapists? can someone let me know what the minimum number of people in your group should be? should we pass some sort of test? maybe we can pay a non-daterape behavior bond to the doormen of each club (refundable of course). perhaps i could bring out my girlfriend or maybe just have her picture screen printed onto my shirt just to show that "i'm really o.k."
pull ya heads in you should know better!

good on ya those who fly solo. as long as ur goin to enjoy the music who cares. however those seedy guys bring down the whole solo act. especially the ones that cant keep their hands to themselves and dont get major hints like leave me the hell alone.

question r there any chicks who fly solo.

i don't think i have eva met a girl in a club who came on her own. i don't think i would simply because i wouldn't feel safe and also i don't think it would be the same without my friends there to have a good time with me.

I'd love to share the scene with my other mates if they were interested. But they'd probably stand there in a big circle swaying side to side. Or they'd get really pissed and drunkenly sway around. Or embarrass me somehow else. They're just not into the music, and that's okay I suppose.

(Colgate: Gawd, imagine Craig at a dance event. *laughs*)

voiceinsideyou- have u met many people off biggie?, cos i guess here would be the place to meet peole who are into the scene. i'm new on here so i haven't really met anyone, but i know a few people that have made great friends off biggie to go clubbing with.

i spose the good thing is, is that in the dance scene most people are really friendly and so it is easy to meet people

I'm a chick who has gone solo. Couple of tips though - get a Taxi to the door (don't take your car in cause you'll have to park it down an alley), and don't tell anyone you came alone. If a guy comes up to you, point some people out on the dancefloor and say they're your friends.

Also, don't be afraid of all men who go solo, I met my partner while he was going solo. 2 years later, we're living together and very much in love.

here's a girl that goes out on her own, and i really don't see what the big problem with it is???
Came to NZ about two years ago on my own and didnt know anyone so i had to go out by myself, to enjoy the music and to meet people and i still do it every now and then.
What do you guys (or better girls) do when something is on you really want to see but noone wants or can come with you? Stay at home????
What is so scary about being on your own, i dont suppose your friends need to hold your hand when you are on the dancefloor, and even if there the "big evil rapist guys", pretty much any club has got security, and taxis outside.
I find that you meet so many more people when you are out by yourself, and even when i do go out with a big group of friends, i tend to get on my own little buzz and run off and do my own thing for a while, and i dont like to be with people that get all pissed off just because i dont stick with them all night.
anyway, aucks is so small, so after you have been to a few big parties you know everyone anyway and run into people you know everywhere, so u wouldnt really be by yourself

good point!! i wasn't meaning to diss anyone, it is just an unfamiliar concept for me cos i didn't realise that so many people did it!!
uteee- where abouts are u from??

I always separate from my buddies at big events because we all like to do different things, I like to dance my ass off and they like to sift. the best time is had doing what you want with no pressure.

Germany, lived in France for a short while, and then came to NZ
no worries bout the dissin', know a lot of people that would never go out by themselves, specially girls and i dont really understand why, maybe it's got something to do with being worried about standing alone in the corner all night, but really it is sooooo easy to meet people, and the majority of clubbers are so nice and on-to-it

ive gone solo a few times, hence the callusses on my palms

flynny try a dating web site may cure your callusses.

the thing is that when i go out with my friends we always separate for a while, go and meet people and bring them back and introduce everyone. i guess i just like the feeling of knowing that ur friend(s) are there- it's silly i guess.
uteee- good on u for getting out into the scene on ur own when u arrived here- that takes sum guts i think!!

thanks!

welll i fink tht goin 2 tha clubs solo is a bit daring but if ur used to it then its all good but if its ur first time well u should always start off with friends

cause well u break off when ur dancing on tha floor but its good ta kno i spose tht ur got friends round watchin ur back....

lemon - even though i like going out by myself, or doing my own thing while i am out, meeting people etc, it is still a great feeling to know that your friends or people you know are there, specially when you are on drugs.
I never know what buzz i will be on when i go out, sometimes i like the whole being by myself and talking to strangers, other times i like sticking with people i know, but whenever i do lots of "stuff" or try something new i rather go with friends so i know someone is there, kind of makes me feel safer.

Girls can't go solo... otherwise they won't have someone who will go to the toilet with them.

I thought this was common knowledge?!?!? O_o











lol.

Haha, I'm impressed uteee. I'm pretty much of the same attitude. I like to move around the club/dancefloor and don't need someone hanging off me. I guess that's one of my objections to attempting to introduce my mates to the scene - they might end up looking to me for direction!

lemon: Well, I'm open to meeting people off here. I haven't been around long (couple of weeks I suppose), and I'm a Wgtn'er (and there aren't that many of us Wgtners on here.. compared to Auck'ers that is) so there doesn't seem to be a consensus on where is the smei-official Biggie haunt. Seems Bed is the place to be for Biggies in Auck though!

I started out going to clubs by myself as none of my friends wanted to go. I didn't go too many times before making fiends tho, but I always went to dance and listen to the music. like Voiceinsideyou, I never went to try and hook myself a girl or to be sleezy or anything of the sort.

Dance, isn't this what the culture is all about? And when youa re out dancing on the floor, peaking off your nut, you never dance alone.

god i didnt realise so many ppl went to clubs alone!!! ur biggie ppl!!!!! u can go with n e of us!! everyone's friendly and tend to know how to look after ourselves. and what's this about asking a friend for permission?????? i just wonder off and my friends dont mind cause i always come back eventually (just got a dirty look from lemon).

Going solo is lame..unless you are an exchange student of something

Hmm further to the going solo thing - I'd have to say that I'd much prefer going solo than being at an event with someone who either wasn't into it, being embarassing or cramping my style. Sound like a elitest dont I? Well No apologies for that!

Voiceinsideyou - I dragged Craig along to the Nubinesa CD release party at the Matterhorn last year. Was a rad night! MC Imon Star came on and was doing his thing, craig started imitating 'yo, wasup' oblivious to confused and unplesent looks from the people around us. He ended up leaving after and hour, so I stayed on. That's the last time I went out with people who weren't into the scene.

If they don't get it, they just can't be made to understand it. And that means a little more room on the dance floor for the likes of us!

As a lover of the music and dancing going out solo is not a problem, as all i wanna do is get near a speaker and dance. Your not alone when on the dance floor. However, I never really make new friends when i go out clubbing alone as I spend the whole time dancing. I`m probably dancing in a sea of Biggie`s and don`t know it!
But out with your best, solid crew is the best. Share those goodtimes.

Dancinpornme: Yeah, that was my experience going solo. I guess if you're not dancing you have to go up to people and say hi and stuff - but if you're going hard all night, there may not be time!

Colgate: Haha, sounds like a fucking laugh! Oh god, that must have been embarrassing.

Equinox: Bam, I have been duly chastised. Thanks for that dude.